Searching for better role modelsWe’re often advised not to compare our lives to what we see from our friends on Facebook and Instagram. The theory goes: People tend to expose on social media only the best, happiest facets of their lives, and comparing our own ordinary existence to the world-traveling, fancy-food-eating filtered glimpses we get of others can be mentally unhealthy. (A recent study suggests that limiting use of Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram to 30 minutes a day can reduce depression and loneliness.)

The same must go for our corporate lives. Ever attend a conference and hear other employers tout their colossal, life-changing, company-all-in, money-is-no-object, wellness revolutions? But then you return to your own job and are reminded that you’re in a complex organization where your wellness program may not be even one of the top 100 priorities? It can be demotivating.

2018 saw some of America’s most respected employers fall from grace due to claims of misconduct and cover-ups. This revelation ranks 7th on my list of Top 10 Wellness Stories of 2018.

Every organization has its good and its bad — its yin and its yang. When we’re immersed, it’s easy to get a relatively imbalanced view of our employer’s flaws, which, especially as wellness leaders, become the primary obstacles to our success.

But for our own wellbeing, it’s worthwhile to step back. And, while learning from other companies, it’s best not to hold ourselves up to the standard of their best selves, just as it’s best not to compare the ups and downs of our own multifaceted lives to the filtered, unidimensional view we get from our friends on Facebook and Instagram.

It’s the fully illuminated view of circumstances — ours and others’, warts and all — that powers us onward and upward.